Intimacy during adolescence - Pre adulthood

How to Handle Sexual Urges

If you are between ages 0-18, it is not recommended that you engage in any form of intimacy until you are old enough and responsible enough. It is normal for teenagers to experience sexual urges as part of their development which they have no control over. To counteract these sexual urges, whenever they occur:

1. Take a shower

2. Read a book

3. Think about something else to remove the thought from your mind

4. Have a shower at room temperature

These urges are a natural part of teenage growth and is not to be ashamed of, avoid sexual thoughts and don’t engage in sexual activity no matter how strong these urges are until you are responsible enough. Intimacy is not to be looked down on, and upholding your virginity is an honor. Don’t let friends influence you into doing what you know is wrong, whenever they try to force you to do these things, think to yourself:

 Is this what I want for myself?

 What would my parents think?

 How is this benefiting me?

If after thinking it through you still want to engage in sexual activity below the age of 18 and unmarried, speak to a trusted adult such as a guidance counselor.

If you are however, over the age of 18 and you think you are old enough to enter into sexual interaction with you partner, here are a few things to discuss:

1. Can it wait until Marriage?

2. Are we ready to be engaging in such activities?

3. What type of contraceptives are safe?

4. Are we ready to start having children?

Intimacy was created for Marriage. It is not something that should be engaged in outside of marriage, no matter how much a partner may tell you he loves you or how happy you two are, if your partner really and truly loves you, they’ll wait.